| Anal, A,
A/S, A/W |
Anal sex, to receive
Anal Service, Anal Worship. |
| Adult Baby
(AB) |
Grown-ups who wish
to be treated as babies. This includes wearing nappies,
bottle feeding and changing. |
| BDSM |
It is generally accepted
within the scene that these initials mean Bondage & Domination,
Sadism & Masochism, but also that they are extended to Bondage
& Discipline / Domination & Submission / Sadism & Masochism. |
| Blood
Sports |
Involves cutting,
piercing or the drawing of blood. |
| Body
Bag |
A fully enclosed rubber
bag into which the slave or submissive is sealed. Used in restriction
or mummification games. |
| Body
Worship |
To kiss or lick the
Mistress's body. Often the legs, feet or anus. |
| Bondage |
The generic term for
practicing tying or restraint. Bondage takes many forms, including
elaborate rope bondage, chains, metal handcuffs or leather restraints,
as examples. |
| Boot
Worship |
To kiss or lick the
boots or shoes worn by the Mistress. |
| Bottom |
Another term for a
submissive. |
| Breath
Play |
To have one's breathing
restricted or controlled. |
| Brown
Showers |
Sometimes referred
to as 'hard sports'. To be defecated upon. See also 'Scat' and 'Caviar'. |
| Body
Modification |
To have the body modified
by piercing or cutting. |
| Butt-Plug |
There many types,
sizes and models of Butt Plugs. Rubber, latex, metal, inflatable,
to name but a few. |
| Cage |
A metal cage in which
the submissive is locked as part of a scene. |
| Caning,
Corporal Punishment |
Inflicted by the Mistress,
often in schoolboy games. |
| Cat |
Traditional
cat-o-nine tails,
consisting of nine strands of leather attached to a handle. The cat
leaves lasting marks, and inflicts extreme pain if wielded harshly. |
| CBT |
Cock and Ball torture. |
| CBT
Board |
A wooden or leather
board designed to hold the penis and testicles whilst they are tortured.
It is usually attached with clamps. |
| CD |
Cross-dressing. To
dress, or be forcibly dressed, as a female. |
| Chamber |
The room in which
a Mistress plays. Can also be called a Dungeon. |
| Chastity |
A method of
'ejaculation' control. Devices such as the CB2000
are popular! |
| Clamps |
Clips, often metal,
sometimes clothes pegs, which are attached to the nipples, penis or
scrotum. |
| Clingfilm |
The common kitchen
wrap. Very effective when used in mummification games. See also 'Mummification'. |
| Collar |
Worn to denote submissiveness
or slavery. |
| Cock
Ring |
A ring made from metal,
rubber or leather, worn round the base of the penis. A Cock Ring can
either help sustain an erection, or prevent one if applied to a flaccid
penis. |
| CP |
Corporal punishment. |
| Crop |
The thing that jockeys
use on horses. A well applied crop causes significant pain, and will
leave marks, even when applied lightly. |
| Cuffs |
Either metal or leather,
and worn on the wrists and/or ankles as a method of restraint. |
| Cutting |
Involves being cut
with a scalpel. Dangerous, and not recommended. (See also scarification,
below). |
| Dildo,
Dildo Training |
A dildo is inserted
into the rectum. There are various sizes, from finger size to enormous. |
| Dog
Training |
You're the dog. Wear
a collar and lead, eat and drink from a bowl on the floor, beg and
bark. |
| Dom |
A Male Dominant. |
| Domination |
To be dominated by
a Mistress. This includes obeying instructions, carrying out tasks,
humiliation and being dominated generally. |
| Domina, Dominatrix |
Terms which may be used to describe a Mistresses. |
| Dungeon |
Most Mistresses refer
to the room where they play as a dungeon. Usually it is just a converted
room in a house or flat, rather than the traditional cellar. |
| Edge-Play |
This means that the
scene will be taken to extreme limits. Edge play should only be contemplated
by those experienced in BDSM. This is definitely not for the novice. |
| Electrics |
To be tortured or
stimulated with a low-voltage electrical device, such as a 'Violet
Wand', PES or a TENS unit. There are both dildo and catheter attachments
which can deliver an internal electric shock. WARNING
Never use, or allow to be used,
mains-powered (except the violet wand) electrical stimulation devices.
Never use electric devices above the waist. |
| Enema |
Lots of fun if you
are into it. An enema is used to fill the colon with water or other
liquid. Often used in medical scenes. |
| Feminisation |
To be dressed and
often made-up as a female, either voluntarily or enforced. |
| Face
Sitting |
To have your face
sat upon by the Mistress, sometimes as part of breathing restriction
games. |
| Fetish,
Fetishist |
Fetish is a term used
to describe a specific area of interest, likewise a fetishist is one
participates in those fetishes. There are probably a hundred or more
activities which can be described as fetishes, but a representative
example are those involving rubber, latex, PVC or leather. |
| Fisting |
A hand is inserted
into the anus and then balled into a fist. The submissive needs to
be experienced to receive a fist, and the Mistress skilled to perform
it. |
| Foot
Fetish or Worship |
To kiss or lick the
feet of the Mistress. |
| Flogger |
A rubber, latex or
leather multi-stranded whip. |
| Gags |
Many kinds available,
but are often ball gags, or penis-shaped gags. Sometimes inflatable. |
| Gates
of Hell |
Leather or rubber
device consisting of several straps which enclose and restrict the
penis and testicles. Used as a male chastity device. |
| Golden
Showers or G/S |
To be urinated upon.
Sometimes referred to as Golden Wine or Golden Champagne. See also
'watersports', below. |
| Hard
Sports |
Scat games. Poo! |
| Harness |
Usually leather or
rubber, worn by the submissive. The harness will sometimes restrict
the movement of the arms. |
| Health
and Safety |
This is a huge area.
However, basically, only ever use equipment which has been sterilised
if it is invasive. Tell the Mistress if you have any medical conditions
- especially if cardio-vascular. Many Mistresses are happy to see
those who are HIV+. Just tell her. Never play without a safe word.
Always use a condom, even if the end result is auto-erotic. You know,
all common sense stuff. |
| Hood |
Hoods are usually
rubber, leather, latex or PVC and totally enclose the head. There
are many different types of hood, but some have gags or zips fitted
to restrict vision and breathing. Very efficient when used as part
of sensory deprivation games. |
| Human
Toilet Training |
You're the toilet,
and often restrained in a toilet box, whilst the mistress urinates
or defecates on you. |
| Humiliation |
Takes many forms,
but is exactly what it says. To be humiliated forms a part of many
scenes, and can be related to body shape or penis size, among other
things. |
| Hypnotism |
Some Mistresses engage
in hypno-play. You have to make your own mind up about getting into
this, but it can be very exciting if the Mistress is an experienced
practitioner. |
| Ice |
Ice can be used very
effectively as an instrument of torture. |
| Interrogation |
A type of role play
- can be very intense. Interrogation may involve torture. |
| Lash |
Descriptive of any
kind of whip. |
| Leather |
Well, you can find
hundreds of items of leather clothing and other ephemera on the web
and in specialist shops. |
| Maid
Training |
Wearing a maid's outfit.
Cleaning, serving the Mistress and generally acting as a maid. |
| Marks |
Most Mistresses will
ask before marking you. Remember that even the lightest application
of a whip or crop will leave marks which will be visible for anything
from several hours to several days. |
| Medical
Scene |
Where the Mistress
plays the role of a strict nurse. Often involves the use of rectal
exams, enemas and catheters. |
| Mummification |
The whole body is
wrapped in cling-film or other suitable wrapping, or enclosed in a
body bag. Breathing is often controlled via a mouth or nose tube. |
| Nipple
Training |
Clamps are used on
the nipples. Any application of pain to the nipples. |
| Obedience |
Mistresses will expect
absolute, unquestioning, obedience to their commands. |
| Oral
Service |
Some Mistresses will
allow you to do this. Most won't. |
| PA |
Prince Albert. A ring
which pierces through the urethra and comes out of the underside of
the penis. There are several piercing and modification sites where
you can see photographic examples of the PA. |
| Panty
Boys |
Those who like to
wear female underwear, especially panties, as part of a scene. |
| Parachute |
Parachute-shaped rubber
or leather attachment for the penis. Weights are then placed in it
to stretch the penis and testicles. |
| Pet
Training |
To be trained as a
dog, pony or other pet. |
| Piercing |
Either temporary or
permanent. If temporary, needles are used and removed at the end of
the scene. There are many kinds of body piercing which are permanent,
including piercings to the genitalia and nipples. |
| Play |
To participate in
a BDSM scene. |
| Pony
Boys, Pony Training |
This involves acting
as a pony, pulling a small trailer with Mistress in. And guess where
you wear the tail. |
| Poppers |
A liquid stimulant
which is sniffed. Poppers act by increasing the heart rate and
decreasing the blood pressure. They can intensify orgasm. Should be
used with caution. |
| Pro-Domme |
Descriptive of a Professional
Dominatrix. Payment is expected. |
| Prostate
Milking |
A method of provoking
ejaculation without touching the penis. |
| R/L |
Real life. For example,
where one has a real-life Mistress. Usually descriptive of a situation
that is not fantasy, but reality. |
| Rack |
Exactly the same as
the Medieval torture device. |
| Restriction
Games |
A part of the bondage
scene. Often where breathing is restricted or controlled. |
| Role-Play |
You both act out roles,
teacher/pupil or nurse/patient for example. Usually, only the broad
outlines are sketched out, and the Mistress runs and controls the
play. |
| Rubber,
Latex, PVC |
Worn or used in scenes.
It is possible to acquire a massive wardrobe of clothing and toys. |
| St
Andrew's Cross |
A diagonal cross upon
which the submissive is tied. |
| S&M |
Sadism and masochism. |
| Safety |
Make sure you negotiate
exactly where you want to go with the Mistress. Ensure that you fully
explain your limits. No good Mistress will exceed your limits. See
'Safe-Word', below. |
| Safe-Word |
Any Mistress worth
her salt will give you a safe-word before you start playing. Use of
the word instantly stops play, and is used when your limits have been
reached. Remember, fantasy is a long way from reality. You may not
like what is being done to you. Never play without a safe-word. |
| Scarification |
To be cut and scarred.
The scars are often stylised, and displayed in the same way as tattoos. |
| Scat |
Playing with excrement; being used as a toilet.
Rare. |
| Scene |
BDSM generally is
referred to as 'The Scene'. 'To Scene' is to play BDSM games. |
| School
Room |
Where schoolboy/teacher
scenes are played out, with the Mistress acting as the teacher. |
| Sissy
Boy, Sissification |
Much like Panty Boy,
above. Sissification means enforced feminisation. |
| Slave,
Slave-Slut |
Most Dominas will
expect you to behave exactly like a slave. Slaves are often referred
to as slave-sluts |
| Smoke |
The Mistress will
exhale cigarette smoke, often into the filter tube of a gas mask worn
by the sub. Any game involving cigarette or cigar smoke. |
| Snake
Bite |
A rubber suction cup
is applied to the skin. Be aware that it leaves a mark like a love-bite. |
| Sound |
Metal medical instrument
which is inserted into the penis. Occasionally, a lubricated cotton
bud is used instead of a purpose made metal sound. |
| Speculum |
Metal medical instrument
which is used to open and expand the anus. |
| Spreader
Bars |
A rigid bar attached
to ankle or wrist cuffs. Designed to hold the legs or arms apart. |
| Strap-On,
Strap-On Games |
The Mistress wears
a latex penis strap-on and you are expected to receive it. |
| Submissive,
Sub |
Mistress is the Dominant,
you are the submissive. |
| Suspension |
Being hung up, or
suspended, by the tied wrists, wrists and ankles or even feet. |
| Switch |
A person who can 'switch'
between being either a Dominant or a submissive. |
| TV,
Transvestism |
Dressing like a woman,
usually in a very convincing manner. |
| Tens
Unit |
Battery powered device
for delivering a low-voltage electric shock. |
| Toilet box |
Laying on your back,
a toilet box is a purpose-built box, with a toilet seat on top, which
fits round the head. Mistress then sits on the box. |
| Top |
Another word for Domme,
Dominatrix or Dom. |
| Topping
from the bottom |
Descriptive of a bottom
who tries to run a scene from a submissive position. Nothing is more
calculated to irritate a Mistress. |
| Tribute |
The money that is
paid to a Pro-Domme |
| Vanilla |
Descriptive of people
who are not active in the BDSM scene. |
| Violet
Wand |
Low-voltage electrical
device which produces static electricity. Used to torture and/or stimulate
the penis, scrotum and anus. |
| Wax |
Hot candle wax dripped
on the body is an effective means of inflicting pain. |
| Watersports,
WS |
As in Golden Showers,
see above. |
| Weights |
Often attached to
the penis, testicles or nipples to stretch them. |
| Wheel |
A free-spinning wheel
to which the submissive is tied and rotated round. Sometimes called
the Catherine Wheel. |
| White
Room |
As an addition to
a dungeon, where medical and clinical games are played. |